I hate those long sleepless nights; those dark nights where your thoughts prey on you. Every time that your head hits the pillow your heart races and those dark thoughts crawl out. Those dark thoughts that hide in the dark corners of your mind, lying in wait til you turn off the lights, then they come slinking out.
I've been dwelling with them so often lately that I've come to categorize these dark thoughts into two distinct types. Of late I've had two different types of sleepless nights. Perhaps the best way to explain them is to describe all these dark thoughts as insects.
The first type of sleepless nights is what I'll call chaotic ant style. These are the nights where you turn off the lights and a million tiny questions that have been hiding in the corners of your mind run out and race around. Your heart races and thousands of questions run across your mind, hurrying in and scurrying out. Barely giving you time to even answer the question for yourself, you are just subject to the barrage of thousands of questions running around you now that the lights are out. It's overwhelming, your heart races at the sheer number of things you've been pushing back into the corners to deal with later. You can't sleep. The questions are not friendly, but they are not weighty. They run around your mind the way that a mass of ants runs around after it's line has been disturbed. A nice little train of thought in the daylight, the second the light goes off you've wiped your hand across the ant line and chaos ensues. All the little questions you were ignoring or putting off til later run around frantically and confused, not sure where they belong or how to get back to normal. By themselves each question is harmless but in such numbers, the situation is overwhelming. You panic. The questions run around your mind panicked. You don't sleep. It could end there or the tiny questions could get nastier and start to bite you. Who knows what is in store for you on chaotic ant style sleepless nights.
The second type of sleepless night is very different and I'll call it looming spider style. This type of night is usually dominated by one looming question. It has hidden deep in a web in the corner of your mind. You know it has to be in there somewhere but you haven't seen it. It doesn't just get frantic when the lights go out the way that ant style thoughts do. No, no. This is much more sinister. This question is the big ugly kind. It hides in the day because you're actually afraid to ask it. You don't want to know the answer because of the three possible options for answers. You've tried not to think about it because you know the answer to this dark question is either bad or worse. Despite your attempts to not think about it you've come up with roughly three possible terrible answers to this looming question. But at night, you discover it has more legs. More ugly ways this question could be answered. This questions fears discovery. It preys on your mind in the darkness. Slowly. Methodically. This is less of the heart-pounding overwhelming problem and more of the lie awake, cry, or be forced to get up and beat back that question with light and activity. I have a few of these looming spiders I'm afraid to say. One of them is named How. He creeps out whenever there is a tricky situation that I don't know how to deal with. How lurks around when I'm trying to figure out how to mend a relationship or how to get out of a jam. He is often accompanied by his buddy What. He lurks around with "What just happened?" and "what should I do about this?" situations. Sometimes How and What creep around together, sometimes one comes out and then trades places with the other.
But the looming spider I'm most afraid of is bigger and uglier than that. He likes to wait til it's extra late and I'm extra tired and he looms over my bed. His name is Why. I fear him and he knows it. He is the biggest, the ugliest and the as yet undefeated monster of my sleepless nights. For those of you who like Lord of the Rings, think of Shelob the spider. The only respite from the looming Why is on nights where it has already fed before I try to sleep.
Don't get me wrong there are some facts that keep me up at night. Not everything that makes me bleary-eyed and cross in the morning is a question. But it seems that facts and darker realities can be met with some amount of peace and acceptance. It is the questions that truly haunt me when the lights go out and the questions that rob me of my rest.
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